Wife sharing falls under ethical non-monogamy, where a couple agrees to have deeper intimate interactions with other people. To be practiced in a healthy way, it demands trust, excellent communication, and extreme care in planning to guarantee that both partners feel safe. This is a practice I have facilitated many couples through as a sexologist, so let’s look at how to help beginners such as yourself.

What is Wife Sharing?

Wife sharing (or partnered sharing) is a type of consensual non-monogamy where a primary couple chooses to focus their intimacy on each other, while still engaging in sexual encounters with different people. It’s an arrangement that, while very much lacking coercion or secrecy, surrenders total control to a set of rules that are negotiated and designed to deliver satisfaction for all parties.

Essential Tips for Starting Wife Sharing Safely

1. First Things First, Reflect on Your Motivation

• As per most basic queries to reflect on:

Do we both feel equally motivated to participate or is one partner being coerced to join in? What emotional or physical objectives are we aiming to achieve? What are the chances of jealousy or insecurity coming into the picture?

Key Insight: Wife Sharing usually does not ‘fix’ a relationship. It tends to work best when the foundation is already straining.

2. Set Up Communication Protocols

• Define clear rules together, such as:

Activities allowed (e.g., kissing, intercourse). Encounter frequency. Communication protocols (e.g., sharing details vs. privacy). The right for either partner to pause or withdraw at any point.

3. Sustained Continuous Dialogue

• Adjust only after committed discussions. Schedule discussions before and after engagement to:

Engage with feelings of excitement, anxiety, or jealousy Willingly reset the boundaries if required. Re-emphasize commitment to one another.

4. Select Partners Constraint

• Go for those who:

Hold supreme respect towards boundaries. Necessarily prioritize consent and STI safety. Work well with your shared goals (casual vs. ongoing).

5. Prioritize Orders for Sexual Wellbeing

• Take utmost precaution and use protective measures:

Get tested for STis as coined by sexual health guidelines Use protection at all times. Disclose every one else’s health status simultaneously.

6. Reconnect to Debrief

Reinforcing what is shared while outlining reasons why aids strengthens the shared goal. Remember to have the shared issue form the reason why barriers on the shared goal wouldn’t work.

For unresolved feelings, seeking professional help is recommended.

• Common Pitfalls to Avoid
• Thinking It’s Easier: This approach either worsens or enhances the system that was previously working—whether positively or negatively.
• Skipping Boundary Setting: Assumed protocols or unspoken rules can lead to hurt and misunderstanding.
• Failing to Provide Aftercare: After support, emotional care afterwards is necessary for the well being of both parties.

Steps to Deal With Jealousy

Jealousy is something everyone faces. Rather than bottle it up, people can:

• Acknowledge It: Share the feeling regardless of the perspective attached to it.
• Identify Triggers: What was it, was it the particular action, comment made, or the event itself?
• Make Changes if Necessary: Adjust rules or take a hiatus if it helps.

FAQs Regarding Wife Sharing

Q: Is wife sharing the same as swinging?

A: Swinging often involves a couple swapping partners. Wife sharing usually means one partner is with another person while the other partner stays to watch.

Q: Will this help make our bond stronger?

A: Yes—provided that both partners has their needs granted. Transparent communication goes a long way.

Q: What if one of us wants to walk away from this deal?

A: Instantly respect the veto power clause. Bring the topic back to discussion in a low pressure environment.

Q: How do we engage like-minded couples?

A: From good non-monogamous lifestyle websites or application platforms.

Q: Should we be quiet about it.

A: Discretion is personal but they owe all those concerned truthful explanations.

Wife sharing can be a rewarding practice for couples who approach it with care, understanding, and a well outlined purpose. Still, it may not be for everyone, and that is perfectly fine. The aim is shared satisfaction, not adherence to a societal norm.

As with all things non-conventional, remember that ethical non-monogamy thrives on respect. Your partner’s wellbeing should matter as much as your own, so prioritize them just as fiercely.